The local businessman and psychologist also revealed he was in the process of divorce.
Mandla Mhlanga said he realised that some of the problems in his marriage could only be solved by separation.
He said he was home on the Sunday of 9 July 2017.
At around 3 in the afternoon, Mandla said he told Pearl Malang (32) that he wanted to go to his office in Klarinet, where he counsels people as a professional psychologist, in order to check e-mails.
“I said it’s fine if we go together there. She said she would not be able to go to with me to Klarinet as she wanted to go buy food and then take the kids to a party and do her hair. I went to Klarinet. After a couple of minutes she phoned me and told me that she got the food and that I should come home and eat.
“I told her I’m already at the office. She insisted. I told her that, ‘see, if you persist I won’t answer your calls’. She called again and I ignored her and she sent the SMS saying if I don’t come home to eat I’d be sorry,” Mandla told the 013NEWS reporter on Monday night.
The couple and their three children – 7-month-old Quain, 5- year-old Quirino and 10-year-old Quanisha – lived at their Skiatos security complex house in Reyno Ridge, eMalahleni and the Klarinet Medical Centre, situated 18 km north-west of city, is where Mandla counsels people as a professional psychologist.
He said they were divorcing but didn’t want to discuss this in public but said they fought a lot over money.
He said after the SMS he decided not to return home. He said he went to sleep at his parents’ house in the eMalahleni township of Ackerville until the following Monday when he received a call informing him of the death of his wife and children.
Mandla says he wants to focus on finding ways to heal.
He say he doesn’t blame anybody but is shattered by what happened and will try and come to terms with it.
“I have to do my own support system,” he said.
“I don’t blame anyone. There’s a time when I blamed her but there’s no need. Now I just want to focus on healing. I know I will heal with time. I’ve once gone through a similar pain. I lost my mom at an early age, it was hard. I’m a last-born child,” Mandla said.
He said he received the news of the passing of Pearl and the children on Monday morning and couldn’t believe it but now he has learnt to accept it.
He said as a psychologist he’ll deal with his own pains the same way he expects the various victims of trauma who daily come to him for counselling to deal with.
(edited by ZK)
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